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Looking Back at March

In Family, Inspiration and Motivation, Pursuit of Happiness on April 1, 2010 at 10:08 am

Each month, I do a recap to measure my progress while keeping myself accountable to my goals.

Here is my look back at March…


I wish that this was an “April Fool’s” joke, but unfortunately, it isn’t.  The pursuit of health went way off course this month for a variety of reasons.

As the month began, I was in Las Vegas attending a convention.  Over the course of three days, I probably walked as much as I would have if I had been at home.  It’s just that the walking took place in a huge convention center instead of the streets and walking trails near my home.  That’s the good news.  The bad news is that conventions are not the best place to eat properly, and this convention in particular, made it virtually impossible.

Once I got home, there was a lot of follow-up work to be done.  And on top of that, my son started having football practice during the time when I would normally go for a walk.  While practice isn’t every day, it was enough to stop me from getting back into my usual routine.  Busy days and evening practices left very little time to do the walking that I intended to do.  Getting off of my routine was bad enough, but then I had to deal with some personal issues that also took my mind away from making the time to take my daily walks.

While it was a difficult month, I realize that I could have made the time to exercise, but I didn’t do it nearly as much as I should have.  It would be easy to blame my failure this month on extenuating circumstances, but the reality is that I didn’t do what I needed to do.  All I can do now is look towards the future.

This month, I will be starting a more rigorous exercise program designed by a friend.  The program will eventually be released as a DVD for others to use.  I will be sharing my progress in future posts once I get started.


Although March was not a good month for my pursuit of health, I made progress in my pursuit of wealth.  Two of the projects that I am working on took some steps in the right direction.  It’s all part of the process of laying the foundation for the future.  While my impatience tends to get the best of me at times, I realize that doing things the “right way” now is more important than taking shortcuts to reach my destination more quickly.

I’m looking forward to sharing more details about one of the projects sometime in April.


As is usually the case, this month had good days and bad days.  I knew heading into the month that it was going to be difficult (see posts entitled “A Year Ago Today”, “Dear Dad” and “Too Hard to Let Go” to understand why).  In addition, there were some other unexpected issues to deal with.

While March had its share of trying moments, there were good times as well.  The trip to Las Vegas was good on a business level, but the highlight of the trip was reuniting with a cousin that I hadn’t seen in a long time (see post entitled “24 Years” for details).

It is said that “when one door closes…another one opens.” The unexpected issues that I had to deal with have shown me that the saying holds true.  I am very grateful for the silver lining that came with the dark clouds.

On the positive side, I am thrilled with my son’s football team.  It is a great group of kids, coaches and parents.  For the first time since he started playing organized sports, I feel that he is finally experiencing the joy that I did while playing little league baseball as a kid.

Of course, in spite of any bad days that I may have had, there was always something to be happy about.  I’m thankful that laughter fills our home at least once a day.  Although I always knew this, sometimes the bad days give me an extra reminder of how great my life is with my wife and kids.


It seems a bit silly that flipping the calendar is really a chance to start anew, but I do feel that way today.  Overall, March was a difficult month and I’m glad that April is here.  I’m ready to move forward and build on the positive things that happened in March.

Dear Dad…

In Family on March 13, 2010 at 4:08 am

I can’t believe how long it has been since we got to celebrate one of your birthdays with you here.  Time is really flying by.  There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about you at least once, but usually much more.  Whenever I get the chance, I slip in a story about Poppy to the kids.  I try to do it with the laughter and fun that you would have, but inside it still feels very bittersweet….knowing that the kids’ only memories of you were not experienced by them… but told by me.

When you used to talk about retiring and moving to a warmer place, I always hoped that you would change your mind once you became a grandfather.  Even though you only got to be here with a grandchild for a month before you left us, it was easy to see the pride and love that you felt as you held that baby girl in your arms.  She’s the luckiest of the grandchildren because at least there are pictures of the two of you together.  And though you never got to hold the other grandchildren, I have no doubt that they would have felt just as loved, and you wouldn’t have been able to leave them to go someplace warm.  Of course, knowing what I know now, I wish that we were only a plane ride away from visiting you.

Life has taken some strange turns since I stood at your grave last year on your birthday.  Who would have thought that I would be the one to move away to a warmer place?  Leaving New York was hard for many reasons….not being able to visit you is near the top of the list.  I’ve always been there for every birthday, the anniversary of your passing and other times during the year where I just felt the need to be there…if only for a little while.  Being so far away, it’s just not possible to do that right now, but visiting you will be the first thing that I do when I visit Long Island.

I’ll stand there with the kids, telling them funny stories and thinking about what might have been if they had gotten the chance to know you on their own.  I’m sure that they would talk about their Poppy with the same love and adulation that you would have as you showed pictures of them to your customers.  The older ones already talk about you that way even though they have no memories of their own with you.  They love you and miss you…as we all do.  My son has cried at times as he speaks about how unfair it is that he never got to meet you.

My little one isn’t as aware as the other kids, but she knows more and more about you as the days pass by.  If you are watching over everyone (as I hope you are), you already know that she inherited her fun personality from you.  There isn’t a day that goes by where she doesn’t make me laugh often with the things that come out of her mouth.   I always enjoy bringing her with me to visit you because she does it with a smile.  She has fun putting rocks on your stone as the meaning behind it is beyond her grasp right now.  When I visit you with her, there are moments when I let go of the pain because I am so wrapped up in her joy.

Your birthday is never an easy day for me, but I will do my best to put my sadness aside and be there for the kids the way that you always were there for us.  Spending a few hours on the football field with my boy should help.  He’s doing a great job.  You would be so proud of him.  Despite all of the loss that he has had in the last year, he is thriving in his new school.  He is adjusting to living in a new place.  He still misses things about home.  I do too.  But we’re making the best of where we are.  I just wish that it wasn’t so far away from everyone.

Even though I can’t be there to celebrate your birthday with you today, I will be there in spirit.  On a day that should be about gifts for you, I want to thank you for the gift that you unknowingly gave to me…the example of what a dad should be to his kids.

Happy Birthday Dad!  I love you and miss you more than words could ever say!

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