Finding the Right Mix

In Life Lessons, Pursuit of Happiness on March 29, 2010 at 10:47 am

The “work/life balance” is something that most people strive for, but don’t easily achieve.  Time management tends to be the major stumbling block.  Often times, I find myself wishing for more hours in the day (as many others do).  Unfortunately, the one thing that technology cannot create is time.  In fact, technology seems to have made our lives busier than ever.

As the years go by, it has become easier to give up things that I no longer enjoy the way that I once did.  It may be (in part) because life with children is busier than the single life, but I think that the main reason for the change is that I have learned to place a higher value on my time.

This past weekend, I was discussing fantasy football with my son’s football coach.  Although I no longer play, there was a time when I spent several hours each week focused on running a league and my own team.  Once I got married and had kids, I had much less time to dedicate to fantasy football, so I decided to quit.  Aside from the time commitment, I was also tired of dealing with the issues that came up on a regular basis.  It was strange at first, but it didn’t take long for me to realize that I made the right decision.  For the first time in many years, I was able to just enjoy watching football without worrying about which players were scoring.  What I thought was going to be a difficult adjustment, turned out to be a very easy transition.

I no longer continue to watch a television series because of a desire to see how the story ends.  I know that many people love the show “Lost,” but I gave up a few seasons ago when it started to feel like a movie that was never going end.   It wasn’t an easy decision at the time, but I haven’t regretted it at all.  The same holds true for other television shows and movies as well.  If something no longer grabs my attention, I simply move on and don’t look back.

Social networking has been a big part of my life since the summer of 2007.  I enjoy it on both a personal and business level, but sometimes I just need a break from it.  For the past week, I have not been on Facebook, other than to reply to an e-mail or two.  No new status updates and no reading updates of friends.  It was strange at first, but as the days went by, I started to appreciate the break.  I will return at some point, but when I do, I will not spend nearly as much time on Facebook as I did in the past.  To some degree, the novelty has worn off a bit for me.  However, the main reason is because I need to find the right mix of how I spend my time to get the most out of each day.

March has been a particularly difficult month on a personal level (as I expected that it would be).  The anniversary of my grandmother’s passing, the anniversary of our family dog’s passing and my father’s birthday all played a part.  Other unexpected issues did as well.  When I take a look back on the month and write about it (as I have done in January and February), I know that March will fall well short of my expectations.  Some good things happened, but not nearly enough to make up for the other “bumps in the road.” And though I have learned not to wish the days away, I am looking forward to April, and the opportunity to get my pursuit of health, wealth and “happyness” back on track.  It all begins with finding the right mix.

  1. Hey Adam I’m with you, March was a rough month and I too am looking forward to April. Here’s to the rest of 2010 being ALL we want it to be!

  2. Well said my friend…

  3. March is tough. Tomorrow will be tough. Stay well, I’m thinking about you!

  4. Adam, this was such a “right on” article! Very well said, and I need to do the same thing. I am not too disciplined as much as I used to be. March was a sucky month, and I did not have the same anniversaries to mourn as you…it just sucked. So with a brighter outlook as to April, I wish you spring – freshness – in Texas…and all filled with happy times! And of course Happy Passover! How are Karen and the children? And the potty training? Please keep in touch when you can. Take care & be well and keep sharing! You are a great writer!!! Much love, Marilyn

  5. Perfectly put! I could relate to much of what you said~~Love reading your blogs Adam…and I love it when you share some of the funny one-liners that your kids say. It always makes me smile (or laugh)~ so don’t take too long of a break:)

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