Breakthrough Moments

In Family, Inspiration and Motivation, Life Lessons, Pursuit of Happiness on January 11, 2010 at 11:20 am

There comes a time in everyone’s life when they are inspired to do something.  Often times, however, someone else is there to rain on their parade by doubting them.  When you’re a kid, the world is your oyster, but for some reason, cynicism tends to creep in as we grow older.  Of all of the four-letter words that we learn as we grow up, I believe that the one that is most destructive is the word – “can’t.” We would all be better off if we spent our time encouraging others (as we do with children) rather than trying to tear them down with negativity.

As a parent of young children, it is pretty common to hear the words…“When I grow up I want to be a …” No matter what the answer is at the end of the sentence, my response is always positive and encouraging, telling them that they can be whatever they want to be if they put their mind to it.  Is it always realistic?  Of course not, but that doesn’t mean that children should be discouraged.

For example, my son’s favorite sport is football.  He talks about wanting to play in the NFL someday.  While it is possible, it isn’t very likely.  When you factor in his genetics, he’s probably as likely to become a real-life superhero as he is an NFL player, but I don’t tell him that he can’t make his dream come true.  It would serve no purpose other than to discourage him from trying to be his best.  As we grow up, we are not afforded the same luxury.  People feel free to openly express their doubt in the hopes and dreams of others, even when their opinions were never solicited in the first place.

We have two choices as we pursue our hopes and dreams.  We can dream big and be undeterred by the negativity of others, or we can allow our dreams to fade away by letting fear and the doubt of others dictate our actions.  Personally, I’ve made the choice to dream big.  I am willing to use the inevitable setbacks that will occur as a valuable learning tool to help me to reach my goals.  I am NOT willing to let the doubt and negativity of others stop me from pursuing my dreams.

Pursuing big dreams in the face of fear and doubt is not easy.  It takes work to keep picking yourself back up again after each setback.  As Winston Churchill said – “Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.” If you truly believe that success is going to happen, a breakthrough moment will eventually occur, although the timing of it cannot be guaranteed.

In part 2 of this post tomorrow, I will share a true story about the timing of Breakthrough Moments…

  1. This is such a great post Adam! I just started coaching another agent and my advice to her today was to “Get out of the way of herself”. She has so much self doubt that she’s keeping herself from moving forward. And that doubt comes from the naysayers in her life. Being on the ALC we are reading this month “Dream Manager” by Matthew Kelly and I would recommend it to EVERYONE! It reminds us of the importance of having dreams and living BIG!! I’m with you and dreaming BIG today and everyday moving forward.

    • Thanks for the tip, Sandy. I’m going to put “Dream Manager” on my list of books to check out. I’m glad that you liked the post. Thanks for your support!

  2. “Feel the fear, and do it anyway.” One of my favorite sentiments. As long as the obstacles in front of you are seen as challenges to overcome rather than impossible barriers that should preclude one from even bothering to leave the starting gate, there is nothing wrong with spelling out the challenges that lie ahead. Unfortunately, as you deftly note, there is a monumental difference between measured encouragement and active discouragement. The failures of others in any endeavor is no excuse for your own. That goes for adults in their chosen fields as well as children with designs on the first manned flight to Jupiter. Well done here, Waldo.

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